Time for a Sexual Revolution

Perhaps we can talk about this now, perhaps the world is ready for a ‘new’, more in-depth discussion of sex. We can notice different trends, patterns, and transformations throughout history. Sex has been around for a long time. In the past, religion has held sway over our attitudes towards the body’s carnal desires. People who lived during the pious Middle Ages were certainly affected by the fear of sin, and there were other inhibiting factors to consider, as well.

After that, as things became cleaner, healthier, and easier to access, things changed.

Many historians and psychologists see the late 1800s as a kind of watershed period for sexuality in the Western world. With the industrial revolution pushing more and more people together—literally—in dense, culturally-mixed neighborhoods, attitudes towards sex became more and more liberal.

Now, in 2009, it may feel like another change is on the horizon, but what exactly are we talking about?

What is Sex?

Dictionary.reference.com (and some portion of the global population) defines it as ‘coitus’, sexual intercourse; esp. between a man and a woman.

Science says sex can be defined on many biological levels: "We may be tempted to regard the definition of sex, for example, as straightforward. Yet sex can be defined or characterized at many levels: chromosomal ("XX" v. "XY"); cellular (egg v. sperm); morphological (gonads, genitalia and functional anatomy); physiological (hormonal levels); and behavioral (sexuality). Which is "the" definition?"

Corinthians says: Cor. 7:4, 5– "The wife’s body does not belong to her alone, but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of a lack of self-control."

Catholicism says: … uh … *lots* of interesting things about sex.

Taoist/Tantric sexuality places a certain amount of emphasis on the search for immortality or a prolonged life, and consider’s it the ‘Joining of the Essences.’

Osho says: "[Sex is] just two persons meeting at the maximum point — not only holding hands, not only hugging each other’s bodies, but penetrating into each other’s energy realm."

Neale Donald Walsch says: "…do not choose sex instead of love, but as a celebration of it. Sexual expression is the inevitable result of an eternal principle of attraction and rhythmic energy flow, which fuels all of life. This ebb and flow, "to and fro" movement is the basic rhythm of the universe and everything in it. This is sex—the Synergistic Energy Exchange."

Personally, I lean much more towards the last three views as opposed to that of traditional religious views, and that for me, sex is a voluntary sublime physical expression of love, engaged in completely consenting freedom. I also feel the world is ready for a different view of sex. One in which there is no judgement and no shame, one where the physical beauty of ourselves and others are fully embraced, and one that allows for humanity to evolve and create something more, greater than the paradigm in which we currently live.

"I want someone who completes me."
"She’s such a slut."
"I’m done with long-term relationships, flings are way better."
"Sex is only for pro-creation."
"Stripping is dirty."
"I just don’t want to be lonely."
"Sex is a waste of time and energy, abstinence is the only way."
"Men are dogs."
"Women are whores."

Possibly you’ve heard some variation of some or all of these at some point in your life. Perhaps you’ve even said them yourself; I know I have. These are signs of confusion, filled with judgement, condemnation, and ego-driven comparison. They echo beliefs and values we’ve been surrounded by and chosen from our past; and like many, many, many things of the past, it’s high time they went away.

Art Pushes Us To Think

I created a piece of artwork recently called ‘Electric Blessed and Blown’, inspired by, and as a tribute to Bryan Arcand’s song ‘This Time Around‘ – It’s a truly beautiful song, which can easily be interpreted to describe an intense sexual embrace.

Hearts are beating bodies breathless sweat slithers down your skin. In this holiest of moments that has left me born again. In the flames that flicker ’round our bodies sheltered from the rest. In this holiest of moments I’m electric blown, and blessed. It’s Love this Time Around. Soft skin shivers sweet lips quiver in a choir of your moans. This bed is our cathedral and your body is my host. Time is lost I’m locked inside the well-spring of your soul. This pounding blood a firey flood untamed like the river flow. It’s Love this Time Around. © Bryan Arcand 2009

Electric Blessed and Blown | 2009 | Jason Fonceca

The response to this work has been absolutely tremendous; everyone seems to love it, connect with it, and be attracted by it. It’s about the beauty of love and life and sex. It’s about the union/unity of two human beings. I observe the world to be incredibly confused about love and sex, and I intend for this piece to help.

Many people consider themselves aware of the energy or ‘vibes’ of life, and I understand the phenomenon. Anytime a human comes into contact with another human, there’s some kind of energy exchange going on. It can be a thought or a glance or smile or a handshake or a hug or a kiss or…

It can also be a punch or a push or a step backward or a turned back or a cold shoulder or avoidance or a thought.

In the past, a good chunk of the population has reacted unconsciously, unaware, and often very negatively to sex. Our religions claim it is godly and then restrict it in all manner of ways, and contradict themselves and each other regarding the subject, miring it in negativity. We fill the media with scenes of violence, but claim to dislike and not support violence; we hide our bodies and are ashamed of so many sexual acts, and stigmatize and chastise those who promulgate it, yet claim we love sex. Does this not strike you as awkward and confused?

Everything starts as energy (smiles, frowns, violence, sex) and then become thoughts translated into physical action. Sex can be looked at as an ultimate action. What can say more, create more, be more? Perhaps it’s time to give sex another look, and entertain some *different ideas* about it. I particularly love the ideas of David Deida, a Westen spiritual sex educator.

We’ll touch more on the specifics of this soon. Love to know if you have anything to share, offer, contribute, question, hate on, whatevz

Jason helps you successfully bridge the gap from where you are to where you want to be, using his clarity & insight to help you rise in all areas. He speaks, writes, and offers success-coaching at http://RyzeOnline.com. He’s been featured on Firepole Marketing, Building Digital Empires, PuttyLike and IntuitiveSoul Radio. Follow him at @jasonfonceca.