The Beautiful People

Beauty, aesthetics, sexiness, art, appeal, attractiveness, fitness, etc. –

I love it all, and many others do, too. When these qualities are applied to the human body though, people are often torn, their thoughts and feelings unclear and dichotomized.

Confused About Beauty?

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On one hand people may deeply desire to be considered ‘beautiful’ or ‘attractive’ by society, yet at the same time, those people may continue *hating* or *being jealous of* people who’ve succeeded in that particular area (or they’ll judge the way that those people achieved their success.)

Western attitudes towards femininity, sexuality, and beauty have in the recent past trended heavily towards a stigmatized view in society (eastern as well, but in a similar-but-different way.)

To provide comfort to anyone who may be thinking that now is the time to go on about how everyone is beautiful in their own way, and how beauty is in the eye of the beholderyes. That is a fine and true thing to say. It is understood, and for purposes of this article I’m going to use the word ‘beautiful’ to mean ‘currently agreed upon by a large majority of one’s community to be magnetic/beautiful/physically attractive to look at.’

In my life I encounter what some might consider ‘a lot’ of beautiful models, and sometimes these models are labelled as ’shallow’ or ‘useless’, and it is worth noting that these labels are applied by people with their own personal body issues and discomfort in their own physicality and/or those who’ve had a negative experience which they externalize and blame beautiful people for.

Another relatively common issue, is for people to bristle at the idea that a restaurant or establishment would hire based on body-type.

"Wait, they only hire hot chicks there? WTF."

"OMG, that is so wrong, they discriminate based on body type."

etc.

You know who doesn’t tend to have a problem with anyone’s body? Models. Or photographers, make-up artists, and others in the beauty industry. They’re almost always super-comfortable with their own body. Sure, they may intend to improve, but they’re generally comfortable showing their beauty. Sometimes they’ve come through a brilliant journey of self-discovery, where in their past they were ‘less’ fit, less beautiful. They’ve ‘been there.’ Or they’ve been pregnant once and had the amazing and impressive experience of getting their body back the way they prefer it. The beautiful people discuss beauty and share beauty tips with everyone, fully passionate about helping others achieve what they’ve achieve or at least their own personally fulfilling version of it. They have tales of being judged for their looks and standing up for themselves.

I could focus on the few exceptions, the shallow/princess-type models, but in general, to me, beautiful people’s thoughts and words are a refreshing take on physical beauty.

Value The Beauty Of The Body

Athletes are hired based on body type, and no one bats an eye. Nobody says "Wow, it’s so ridiculous that fat guys aren’t hired as pro ‘ball players." An athlete’s purpose/goal is to demonstrate a high level of physical achievement, and they receive accolades and reward for this, and people don’t tend to judge them too harshly for their achievement (though perhaps there are instances, when certain athletes are pegged as steroid users for succeeding, or judged for making ’so much’ money for playing a game, etc.) – Generally they are viewed widely as inspirations.

Models are also hired based on body type. A model’s purpose/goal is a high level of physical beauty/aesthetic variety, yet they receive quite a bit less accolades and reward, and far more jealousy, judgement, and lust.

All this can be compared to art. The human body is art. Tattoos are art, human sculptures are art, athletes are art, models are art. On top of that, they are artists. They create their looks, their bodies, they use them as tools and canvas and work with them to elevate them.

TV personalities are often chosen for a certain look, to achieve a creative goal.

Firefighters are chosen based on a number of physical factors, for a specific purpose.

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Ashton Kutcher

Some restaurants, strip-clubs, etc. hire based on looks. Perhaps they aim for a theme, perhaps not. For hooters, it’s based mostly on bra/cup-size, for example. Either way, there are places to go in the world to look at beautiful people, that is the purpose and the goal, and on the whole the people employed there are passionate about being looked at, and the people who go to see them enjoy looking. There are also many places that don’t intentionally prioritize physical appearance, and as individuals we are all blessed with the ability to focus on either style.

Go where, look at, focus on, and pay attention to things you enjoy.

Listen To Them Moan

Some people voice complaints about these practices. They’ll avoid and boycott and hate on people/venues/events that choose actively to support and promote beautiful people, as if the beautiful people don’t deserve support and promotion for the gift they clearly offer the world and that has taken their own leaps of courage. Are you comfortable being watched by many? Comfortable in skimpy clothing? Comfortable being ogled? Beautiful people are. Did they get comfortable with it through magic? Was their first time a big scary step. Perhaps now they’re very good at it, but were they always so awesome at being in the public eye and noticed by everyone?

The negativity and complaints about beautiful people stems from a very simple principle. If one is not 100% accepting and joyful about one’s physicality and appearance, negative attitudes are an unavoidable expression of that; a symptom denoting a possible area for conscious attention. Our bitching warns us that we are not currently accepting our own body/appearance, or that we are looking at others as different, separate, and completely disconnected from us.

All that I’ve discussed above can be applied to fame and wealth as well.

If you’ve heard someone say something like "Oh it’s easy for John to say, he’s rich." — completely dismissing where John may have come from or what he may have been through, it’s a good sign that they’re feeling limited, dis-empowered, and see themselves as incapable of changing their own earning potential in the next [insert number of years] of their life.

If you’ve heard someone gossip about 3rd-hand reports of celebrity scandals and/or debate back-and-forth on the validity of some famous person’s latest creative output, all-the-while unaware of said celebrity’s history, path, journey, experimentation, growth etc., it’s a good sign that they hold the belief that they have nothing creative to offer the world worth recognition, or perhaps they feel that they do the same ol’ same ol’ every day, and have a boring life, show-casing their envy of those who’ve achieved something that appears to be more, through gossip.

Conclusion

If you catch yourself, or someone you know talking in this way, it may be a perfect opportunity to become aware of an issue of your own that is preventing you from growing to a fulfilling level in a particular area. Life is a mirror. <grin>

How many articles on the net offer a perspective articulating the beautiful person’s side? The rich person’s side? The famous person’s side?

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Scarlett Johansson

Perhaps only a few (and perhaps this one will inspire more.) Rarely are these people listened to or even given space to offer their views. SpiritSentient is all about broadening people’s horizons and vision, and inspiring them to take action towards them.

If we look carefully at our lives, we can notice that we always get more of what we love in the world. Over the years we’ve gotten… more music, more movies, more skills, more technology, more socialization + interaction. Maybe we can love the beautiful people, and then imagine what we will get ;)

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5 Responses to “The Beautiful People”

  1. Tori says:

    This is beautiful, thank you for sharing it. Everyone in the world is so beautiful in their own unique ways. This will inspire many to break out of their shells and walk confidently letting their true and inner beauty shine through.

    “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and famous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in all of us. And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” -Maryanne Williamson

    Love and light :)

  2. Arthur says:

    Tori, are you sure you’re not just saying all that because you’re *physically* beautiful? ;)

  3. Bella says:

    A truly fun topic…

    T’is so true, you won’t find those happy with themselves complaining or judging… regardless of the topic at hand. ;)

    Just a couple weeks ago I was inspired to do a wonderful and fun rampage about this, on an article on Care2.com having to do with plus-size model perceptions …
    I expressed my amused lack of issue with the topic, and wished the crowd buzzing ’round it the same wonderful fate of having it become a complete none-issue for them. ;)
    Amusingly enough, since then, I ended up being sought out and thanked for my comment, and called an inspiration for it! :D

    Perhaps I should post a link to this article there as well ;)

  4. Melanie says:

    “Life is a mirror.” You can say that one again and again. Great post and I love that you are working to “broadening people’s horizons and vision, and inspiring them to take action towards them”. Good stuff!

  5. Jason says:

    Life is a mirror. Life is a mirror. Life is a mirror. :) hehe. So glad you liked it Melanie, you quoted a line I really love :) and your comments add energy and enthusiasm to the site, thanks so much, keep rockin’.

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