Posts Tagged "words"

Understand The Languages Of Success

Posted by Jason Fonceca on Nov 19, 2011 in Art Makes Money, Artists, Life Coaching, Personal Growth, Success, Success-Consciousness | 3 comments

Do you want more money? Do you want financial success? Do you want to ‘create an empire’? Well, unless you plan on revolutionizing the entire economy, for now, it might be helpful for you to get comfortable with the language of money.

Crazy, I know.

That means all the words you’ve maybe avoided ‘marketing’, ‘niche’, ‘product launch’, ‘assets’, ‘features’, etc. – there`s a reason most artists never really connect with financial wealth. They’re too busy hating on the people who are experts in that arena, because of their "word-choices."

How to Tastefully Judge and Label Others

Posted by Arthur on Apr 5, 2010 in Abundance, Awareness, Confidence, Life Coaching, Life Purpose, Play | 1 comment

Amusing. That’s what I find my title. Is it ever tasteful to judge and label others? Let’s find out by reading further.

The words one often uses in one’s daily life often shows an interesting side of one’s character. When someone reads what I write, as in this article, they get a glimpse of how my mind thinks. People who have read my words and give comment, some with genuine sincerity, others by some praise simply to be social, have had fun calling the words that flow through my hands: articulate, thoughtful, intelligent, emotional and all sorts of things based on what I write. I often reply to this, aren’t we all?

What does articulate even mean? What about thoughtful? …Intelligent? Emotional!? It’s subjective depending on the kinds of people one has met throughout one’s life and what one’s values are. And different people can use the same words and mean completely different things, depending on where they are at in life and who they are as a person.

For someone who is disproportionately logical to their emotional side, and a very fast thinker, they may find my way of writing as not concise enough or not useful enough to be worth reading (if their values are solely based on return of investment, increasing money, immediate social status, material goods).

For someone who is disproportionately emotional to their logical side, and takes more of their time to make decisions, they may only connect with some random aspect of a post that relates to them personally. If merely as a point, I wrote about family, one could state my “cheeky monkey” article as that “article on family”, and in the same article, another would congratulate or dismiss me on how much they liked/disliked the article on “smoking”.

People who are overly picky about word play in what they read may hold their appreciation back or quickly put an inordinate amount of focus on how one thing can be improved or changed. I appreciation all kinds of feedback, as it gives me a sense of what kinds of readers I have, and I get a feel from those who actually say something, their level of understanding of what I write… but this is besides the point.

This article’s focus isn’t about the types of people who read my articles, or how people criticize or appreciate them or whatever, it’s main focus is to detract people from using labeling and judging as a be-all tool in life, done in a wrong way.

Someone who goes through this article for example, and while reading the “disproportionately logical to their emotional side” phrase in an earlier part of the article and says “that’s me” or another who reads the “For someone who is disproportionately emotional to their logical side” phrase and says, “that’s me” may find that they often judge other people rather quickly, and to their own loss, creating a barrier to appreciating either the emotional side lurking just under the surface of what seems to be a logical person, or vice versa.

There are many, many different kinds of people that I have met and so far I feel I can safely say that there’s no one I’ve connected to that doesn’t have the potential to access a high level of all of the above mentioned traits, at any given point in their lives. That being said, I will use 2 rather extreme examples to clearly demonstrate the pointlessness of comparing and judging, when done poorly. And by “done poorly”, I mean with an agenda, not out of friendliness, in a manner that can be considered bad taste.

EMOTIONAL PERSON EXAMPLE:

As there existed a time when I was far more emotional than anything else… I recall often limiting my own thinking about myself, as a rather emotional person I often felt that I could not grow past my own history (perhaps a string of failures in one particular area of skill) and with this limited type of belief would not grow to overcome say, creating a piece of art elegantly, accomplishing a lot within a day, getting from point A to point B in any unknown and new given task effectively and so on and so forth.

The label that I as an emotional person may likely use would be “I’m just not that kind of person to do things quickly, or I’m not a logical person or I don’t like using logic” when confronted with a problem that obviously requires logic and some problem solving. There were many life experiences that I struggled with whereas if I was not constantly judging myself I would have sailed through and in fact enjoyed immensely.

For example, as a child I would go to these summer camps where there were these puzzles we had to solve for our crafts workshops. Making those little cars made me freeze up, as unlike playing LEGO, where I could freely create my own version of whatever struck my inspiration, I had to make a very specific object. My mind would just freeze up and I wouldn’t be able to put any passion or energy into making a quality little car.

LOGICAL PERSON EXAMPLE:

I can actually use myself again in this example, as there was a time where I completely forgone my emotional side and did everything super logically. I certainly was able to do certain tasks better than I did before, and could argue up a storm with my constant comparisons and labeling…

For a logical person, one may argue with others and oneself that one is simply choosing not to use emotion as a tool because of it`s ineffectiveness. You will often see these types of people with loveless relationships, introverted in such a way that they are comfortable with their misery, and living their life without much passion. Personally, as I was playing around with this mindset, I found myself manically depressed, bored to tears and felt that I was whittling down my own spirit, moving away from what I was truly meant to do in life.

In observing others, I find that people who choose to be logical to the point of secluding their emotional side pervert their own intelligence by not accessing the full potential of their own human organism, what nature has given them by way of intuition and do not connect with what they deep down know as best. These people often miss a deeper level of life, which they are often fine with, and many will live their entire life forgoing the opportunity to make the greatest difference in other people’s lives and their own. Joy gives way to a consistent yet accepted feeling of apathy. At the same time, some of these super logical people that I`ve met are extremely productive and in fact are successful at what they do. They simply hate their lives and don’t know what to do about it or have basically given up in trying to really change.

At a high degree of effectiveness, even a little subtle change of growth (which can be defined as having a more accurate feel of life and it’s many paradoxical truths, experiencing ones true desires and moving past one’s previous self in creating that which one used to feel impossible) may push one to move in such a way that has immediate and long term waves of benefit, which adds up in unknown goodness throughout all of one’s areas of life: social, financial, spiritual, mental.

Personally, after much growth, I actually compare and judge, people, places and things all the time. In fact, you will find this very article littered with them. I simply love to do it and pride myself in doing it well  At the same time, it took me forever to learn how to do it in an awesome way. I know that when I’m doing these things with an air of playfulness, one of which I don’t really care at all and know that I’m only using these comparisons and judgments as a tool, and not as something I’m overly identified with, they can be appreciated by not only me but also everybody I use them with around me.

And there you have it, that’s how you judge and label others well, you simply do it for fun, without an agenda, in a friendly way; I guarantee that it will result in a manner that those around you will consider your words to be of good taste if not at the very least, much better.