Today, I shall discuss an element of humanity that is most dear to my heart. I invite all who would give a kind ear to my voice on this matter.

To me, how one invites another is the most beautiful thing. To give a waiter a larger tip than they expect, one has to create the mood and scenario in which it would be more beautifully bearable for the waiter. For a man and a woman to communicate, invitation must take place:

One must have an inviting presence of listening and the other an inviting spirit of offering conversation.

Over the last month and a half or so, I have given more than 30 hugs to many different people. These people include my business partner at SpiritSentient, waitresses that I’ve met for the first time, my next door neighbor, a business prospect, a client, almost every member of my immediate family, friends of friends… the list goes on.

Throughout these days, I have felt a great change come over me and everyone that I meet (whether I hug them or not). With different people, you must speak in different ways, yes…

But.

One thing remains the same.

The heart must be female, whether you express yourself in a female or male way.

Whatever do I mean? I am a male, after all.

Society corrupts the innocent at the moment a child is first given a toy. Boys are expected to play with trucks and toy guns, and girls are expected to play with barbies. This is strictly enforced by the parents that fear that the boy will become gay or the girl a tomboy who can’t find a husband. In reality, the toys themselves are simply toys and a boy that plays with a barbie is no more harmed than the girl who plays with a toy truck. However, the parents fear-vibration and discriminatory attitude do contain a lasting impact that remains until the being matures (I say it in this way, because the child could mature right away or much later as an adult).

Very often, boys grow up being more and more desensitized by their parents, the media and their peers. Boys aren`t supposed to cry.

Yet, crying to me is a most beautiful thing. It represents growth of a highest form. Very often, girls are grown up more and more superficialized, respectively by the same things that desensitize boys. Girls aren`t supposed to have power.

Yet, power to me is the second most beautiful thing. A powerful body and spirit, surrounded by a genuinely female heart (girls or guys) can help the greatest amount of people in the world, including oneself.

I have studied and worked through a long and arduous process of learning a martial art called Muay Thai (Thai boxing). Sometimes, girls also particpate in this. I have done martial arts of different forms for many years. I really enjoyed it while I was doing it. However, something was always missing. Inside, I always felt something was wrong.

Only recently however, being more and more honest to myself, I realized and pursued my real passion: dance. When you do what you really want to do, and don`t repress yourself and do some shoddy alternative for yourself… the real experience… it is indescribeable. Just writing about it here, I know I am not, can not actually express just how joyful I am when I dance, with the inner knowing that it was what I really wanted to do all along. I am glad I dropped my socially conditioned mind of guys dancing being wrong.

I have written many hundreds of thousands of words in my life. None more beautiful to me then the ones I write here right now. Right now, my heart is pure female. Yet the outter shell, the power to create and the fact that I am expressing is pure male.

The female and male working together in one body.

That is balance.

That is invitation.

Perhaps, that is…