Expose Yourself ;)

Relationships has been a fun focus lately. So have ideas. David Deida combines these two things exceptionally well (he goes so far as to suggest that conversation is verbal intercourse which results in the birth of beautiful new ideas.)

I’ve mentioned Deida before, and recommended his book ‘Intimate Communion‘ to so many people (in fact, it’s on the SpiritSentient.com Reading List). David Deida has always, to me, been a fore-runner of evolutionary ideas and understandings about love, sex, and relationships.

Hearing him speak on these things feels amazing. Don’t believe me? Check out a half-hour excerpt (for the love of time, space, and sex) from one of his recent 2009 chats.

When’s the last time you encountered interesting ideas on how sex organs evolved from amoebas, or the spirituality of sex, or Jesus’ masculine/yang leanings throughout his life, or society’s current preferred past-times depending on which gender each of us identifies with?

In fact, have you ever been exposed to ideas like this? Or might you possibly be too busy complaining about your love-life? For all the confusion and bitching and moaning about guys, girls, dating, relationships, and sex that people engage in daily, what would happen if we stopped, opened our minds, and listened to what someone such as David Deida (or Stephane Hemon of Ideagasms, or Don Miguel Ruiz) has to say about things.

One of my favourite things that Deida discusses, is that for a feminine-identified person, the practice of stepping through fear to remain open, vulnerable, and surrendered is key. He suggests that a feminine person be aware that most masculine people feel slightly burdened by life and are strongly attracted to healing, radiant, relief.

Note: Deida refers to feminine-identified and masculine-identified people, at any given moment, in order to transcend gender label issues during discussion.

He also notes that for a masculine person, being aware that feminine people are strongly attracted to confident, unwavering, integrious presence/purpose is key. He suggests that a ‘masculine’ person be aware that most ‘feminine’ people at times feel empty and unloved, and are strongly attracted to conscious, unwavering love directed potently towards them, no matter what chaotic emotion they may be animating at any given time.

This is tied to human evolution. People don’t always choose to show what is in their hearts, because it feels uncomfortable. Trusting and surrendering more, expressing deeper levels of love, this is the evolution of humanity. Transcending fear, making bigger leaps for ourselves as individuals and humanity as a whole, is love.

If you ‘allow love to live through you,’ to really thrive and guide the relationship, so much so that each person is willing to set aside their preference to do what is mutually best for everyone… that serves love. Take whatever action is required, whether it be getting divorced, or staying together forever, whether it be remaining celebate or fucking ten times a day.

If you’ve ever wanted an extremely broadened understanding of feminine/masculine, yin/yang, flow/glow… A good start is offered freely on Deida’s site, and I highly, highly recommend it.

Excerpts:

"[Masculine] consciousness never moves, while the feminine energy always moves. [Masculine] consciousness never changes, while the feminine energy always changes. Men who stand firm and trustable in their deep truths are more sexy to women. Women who move their bodies freely in radiant energy are more sexy to men. " – Deida, It’s a Guy Thing: An Owner’s Manual for Women

"If you are in your feminine, love and an intimate relationship is at the core of your life. But at the core of your man’s life is his quest for freedom from constraints. He will do anything to continue on his quest. If he imagines your relationship is going to limit his quest, he will not want to commit. He’ll want to keep things open. When men enter more deeply into a relationship, they feel their attention being more absorbed in love for you. This may scare them. They imagine that their freedom is decreasing, and they react by pulling out, or by refusing to make a commitment to the relationship, especially following an increased period of depth of intimacy." – Deida, It’s a Guy Thing: An Owner’s Manual for Women

"Your independence will evoke his independence: he will find ways to receive feminine radiance without you. He will spend time in nature’s radiance – surfing, hiking, skiing – or he’ll choose to relax with the energy of music or a soothing beer rather than with your untrusting heart. Due to your shells of mistrust, you may have chosen a man who can’t guide your body and heart open to God better than you, directing your life so love’s fullness flows unimpeded… But… you have chosen him." – Deida, Dear Lover: A Woman’s Guide to Men, Sex, and Love’s Deepest Bliss

Note: Deida is touched upon in SpiritSentient’s upcoming book "Idealution & Thoughtsperity", and I personally would love to meet the man.

Jason helps you successfully bridge the gap from where you are to where you want to be, using his clarity & insight to help you rise in all areas. He speaks, writes, and offers success-coaching at http://RyzeOnline.com. He’s been featured on Firepole Marketing, Building Digital Empires, PuttyLike and IntuitiveSoul Radio. Follow him at @jasonfonceca.