Posts made in April, 2009

First thing, a couple definitions:

Relationship: To me, relationships are kind of like tools for the personal growth of all parties involved, and to help the world. They aren’t for simple physical gratification, they aren’t to "fill an emptiness inside", and they aren’t to "kill time." — Certainly they can be used for these things, but it’s like using a hammer to bludgeon someone with; bludgeoning isn’t exactly what the hammer was designed for.

Polarity: The balance of energies, attitudes, and physicalities in relationships, kind of like Yin and Yang. Everybody is behaving a certain way at a certain time, and the way they are behaving can be referred to as the ‘energy’ they are animating. They may be behaving upbeat, happy, sad, firm, understanding, emotional, rational, etc.

Okay, with those definitions out of the way, we can proceed

They have polarity because they balance each other and bring a lot of value into each other’s lives.

Introduction to polarity.

I love starting my posts with a question, and I often do. Today I have a question in mind that hopefully the majority of my readers haven’t until now asked or entertained for themselves. So my question for now is: have you ever observed 2 people of the same energy-level express themselves together for prolonged periods of time?

Do you often see two super-hyper-crazy-energetic people together for extended periods? How about two extremely depressed and suicidal people?
Or two aggressive, assertive, dominant people? Or passive submissive ones?

I’m willing to bet that if you have seen this occur, it hasn’t been very often or for a prolonged period of time.

Some way or another, life will separate these people. Whether they drift apart, become bored with one another, or blow up in a fight… they’ll generally be separated through the (what appears to be) ‘circumstances’ of life.

Of course people aren’t always behaving exactly the same at all times, but they tend to have natural leanings + common behaviours which suit them. A logical person can of course be understanding and emotionally supportive. An emotional person can open their mind and listen to practicality at times if needed. Often though, people want to be what feels natural to them inside, and to deviate from that too much can feel… less-than-pleasant.

This phenomenon is observable, and it affects relationships quite heavily. It’s a powerful factor behind the phrase ‘opposites attract’, it may be related to why heterosexual relationships are so common, or perhaps it’s tied-in to how homosexual relationships often have a more ‘butch’ or ‘dominant’ partner and a less-dominant one.

This can apply to any kind of relationship: business, romantic, friendship, etc. For purposes of this article though, I’ll use the relatively common vehicle of a romantic relationship.

Life generally doesn’t need two people of identical behaviours, attitudes, and energy-signatures in close proximity in a prolonged relationship, as this generally doesn’t serve either party well. How much can we really learn from the experience of interacting always with duplicates of ourselves? There are always exceptions though, and I’d love to hear about them if you can cite them, but in my experience, they’re quite rare.

I often hear woman say they want a man with "drive, ambition, goals, confidence, and leadership."

I often hear men say they want a woman "who’s open, drama-less, trusting, sensual/sexual, playful, flowing, etc."

Or even more common, women want a "tall" guy (they usually mean "noticeably taller than me" by this description) and guys don’t really seek to be with women who tower over them either. It happens, yes, but rarely for a long time nor is it super-joyous (and, to the exceptions, I commend you.) It’s common to attract and be attracted to one’s physical complement.

Also, you may find it quite common for a person with a primarily masculine energy to enjoy a long-term relationship with a person with primarily feminine energy, and vice-versa.

They have good polarity because they balance each other, and bring a lot of value into each other’s lives.

Generally, one type of person / energy, is strongly tied to all others around.

Polarity is constantly shifting.

An interesting thing to observe as well, is how these things are dynamic and can change in situations.

For example, if two people are in fact high-energy, loud and boisterous, and want a life-long friendship or relationship, you may notice one of them "tone-it-down" and the other one "take-the-point" in social situations or just between the two of them, because it feels natural to do so, they might not even notice or be able to explain it.

Similar behaviour can be seen in a dominant career-woman, coming home to her partner. She may enjoy the energy of him taking the lead, being dominant, (in bed or otherwise,) when they connect after a day of work. Both of them animating that dominant/aggressive/competitive energy at the same time in the same space can be seen to result in discord and tension.

Generally, one type of person / energy, is strongly tied-to all others around them. What they are like, affects what you are like, and vice-versa. This seems like a great rule of thumb, at the very least, so I’m going to call this a ‘law’ for now.

So the idea of a relationship using this law, would be to have someone around who let you be what you naturally wish to be. If you wish to be playful, relaxed, go-with-the-flow and carefree — then be with someone who is themselves, naturally otherwise. Someone who is naturally directed, passionate, visionary, and driven. The idea is to become clear on what, deep-down, feels really good to *you* and then to attract a relationship that opens up space, time, and energy to help allow you to BE that.

If deep-down you want to be free and not-tied-down, then attract a very open-minded, go-with-the-flow partner, who thrives on spontaneous and natural direction provided/suggested by others and is rarely limited by cultural and social norms.

If deep-down you want to be very sexual, sensual, body-oriented, attract a partner who loves to see this expressed and brings it out in you, and leaves space for you to do so.

If deep-down you want to be healthy, fit, and active, attract somebody who naturally gives you plenty of opportunities and invitations to do and be that. Attract a healer, an outdoors-person, a fitness-guru, a yoga-instructor.

Do what is mutually beneficial for all parties, raises and lifts everyone up, and by doing so makes the world that much better.

On the flip-side, if you’re already extremely fit, perhaps consider being around someone who can benefit from your natural tendencies and attitude, and who will help you to be something *else* you in-your-heart would love to be. Someone who might not be quite as healthy, but who you can tell that they’d love to be so, and that they’d really shine even more with you in their life.

Applying polarity

By applying this law, and becoming clear on the kind of person who will help you be who you truly want to be, you’re able to attract them easier and faster. If you know you want someone fit, you can make sure to not waste time on people who are not naturally engaged in that. If you want someone funny and witty, you can have your mind/sub-conscious pay attention to them out of habit or remove yourself from boring company towards someone more in line with your desires.

If there is something you’d like to see in your partner, applying the law, it might be best to be focusing on yourself and what changes you can make in your own energy, attitudes, and behaviour that encourage and allow space for that in your partner — or to realize that that is just not a natural trait in your partner, and perhaps they are not the match that will truly let you be what you wish to be.

Some people say relationships are about giving of yourself to others, and they are. Others say do what makes you happy and forget everyone else, which has it’s place as well. I say do what is mutually beneficial for all parties, raises and lifts everyone up, and by doing so makes the world that much better. Would we not all like to see a bunch of happy, connected people helping each other kick ass at life?

"The best car safety device is a rear-view mirror with a cop in it." – Dudley Moore

How much do you in-joy your driving?

I’ve never felt so warm as I did the other night, in my car.
Children, women and random guys all smiling at me as I was wandering the roads.

I’ve rarely taken up the wheel simply to talk about how it feels.
I’ve never been the guy that
who would make up reaonsons for writing. Looking back though,
I must have been guided to do so for the purposes of
sharing the unique experience of joyous driving through this post.

Watching the city. I was dreaming of a new way of
implementing driving rules for the city, or rather, removing all rules.
There’s an example in Europe where there are no traffic lights.
Where people trust, and the accident rate is approximately 0%.

One day a friend had said to me, happy is where I want to be.
I told him, "How do you feel when you drive?"

He smiled. He understood.

The Courage to Create

I love how Jason took that above piece of writing that took me literally 15 seconds to write and posted it, without asking me.

That’s how we roll.

While Jason was around yesterday, I wrote a list of about 25 things that I wanted to do. One of them, was to create art, poetry, blog posts, clients and so on, a million times faster than I was doing. This little push of encouragement is awesome. Sometimes that’s what we need, as human beings. A little push to flap our wings.

Osho has a really great story that I will share here:

MAN is not aware of what he is capable unless he comes to realize it.

It is just like a small young bird. The bird, sitting in the shelter the mother and the father have made, watches them fly, can see the delight of their flight. He himself would also like to fly in the same way, be on the wing in the infinite sky, under the sun. Seeing them going higher, moving with the winds, a great urge arises in him also. But he is not aware that he is capable of the same flight, the same delight, the same dance. He is not even aware that he has wings.

It takes a little time for the mother and the father to persuade him. And they have a certain methodology to persuade him. The mother may sit just a little higher on another branch and give a call to the child. The child tries to fly but is afraid he may fall. But the mother goes on calling him; that gives him confidence. Sometimes it is needed for the father to actually push him out of the shelter. There is fear, he is nervous, but one thing is certain: for the first time he knows he has wings.

He flutters his wings. He does not know how to fly, but the mother is not far away; he manages to reach her

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the miracle has happened.

Too often, all we need to do is simply be simple. Do something and then run with it. Don’t make the mistake of everyone else, think so much that it ruins the authenticity of who you are and what you want to create. For what you want to do: Just think possible, and think that it’s possible… let the universe decide the rest.

Happiness is an internal thing. I read a story recently about how this famous philosopher (forget the name, I don’t really care about names), once visited a tribal village and became very jealous. They were very poor in everyway, and literally had nothing. They never judged, never compared, just were themselves and they were brilliantly happy. People in big cities with so much to do, like New York, are among the most bored and unhappy populations in the world. Yet, a lot gets created in New York, and in a sense there is a lot of abundance everywhere. The very best is to have the happiness and contentment of the tribal village, and the highest abundance that a big city like New York offers.

To give value to society by just being yourself in the truest form is like drinking a cocktail of Brandy Alexander, a creamy chocolate drink of brandy, dark creme de cacao and cream, topped with nutmeg.

I’ve never drank that drink (I will one day, simply because it sounds awesome). But it inspires me and makes for a good example of how to create without analysing too much, and give yourself a chance to get the best of the both worlds (happiness and abundance).

I’m sure everyone has heard of those who hold themselves back, thinking they will pursue their dream only when they "have enough money", "settle down with their family", "random excuse X" and "random excuse Y".

I’ve done it myself, but no longer. And my attitude is why I can call upon so many miraculous resources that seem to just come into my life whenever I need it. All the decisions are the easiest decision to me.

The Easiest Decision

I ask: What is the best decision that would help yourself, others and the entire world at large at the same time?

Those who completely focus on a task, mad-scientist-style may suffer from lack of hygenic grooming, cleaning their faces or cutting their nails. Those who focus on their looks vainly may suffer from lack of creative output, seeing themselves in a cubicle. Those who only care about "the world at large" suffer from ineffectiveness, picking up every dirty bottle they see and yet being unable to pay their rent on time.

I’m not the kind of person who creates yet doesn’t put my content out into the world out of fear that it will succeed amazingly. Ever since I’ve changed my attitude to the this way of thinking, I’ve found that I’m a lot more zealous, youthful, expedient and abundant.

I try to write in a way that feels right. Look at what’s written in published books or top blogs. Everything is above "average". If you’ve read or watched something recently, it’s probably been fine tuned and looked over with a sharp eye.

That’s why, you should only do things when it feels right. When it feels right, there’s a different quality to it. When it feels right, it goes above and beyond other people’s above average. When you create things when it feels right, you bring to others that fine touch. It’s been said that God is in the details, and that’s true.

Anyone can grind out 7.5/10 books and articles. But in order to get that 10/10 out of your heart and into play? You have to trust your inner feeling. So do what feels right, enjoy your play, and create from what’s really in your heart.

Then share it.

Bam! Another new creation brought to you through SpiritSentient. My brother Nick and I have recently begun our foray into DJing/Mixing. We took our love of music to a new level. I love it because I’m able to use my innate abilities for attracting, remembering, knowing, and organizing huge libraries of amazing creations/media during the process of song-selection. I also get to be extremely creative and intuitive and artistic with blending, effects and transitions. Nick brings his amazing analysis, intellect, detail-orientation, and brilliant technical skill to the table. It’s so beautiful. This is our first publicly released mix, so please be gentle, though I feel really good about it. It’s kind of a gritty, edgy, interesting mix of mainstream electro/dance tunes, sprinkled with just enough oddballs and rarities to keep it interesting. If that’s not your style, never fear, we have an awesome breezy summery mix planned! We’re thinking right now to offer something valuable and unique to the DJ world by focusing on rare/obscure/underrated/under-known songs which are amazing and would definitely do well being brought to light for people open to them. I’ve always loved sharing and introducing people to new music they’d otherwise not have the chance to hear. I love using my (practically psychic!) knowledge of what people will like and enjoy to cater to their tastes perfectly. <grin>

So here we go, Brothers Fonceca Forever (the adorably fun DJ group also known affectionately as BFF) presents:

BFF – Minty Fresh Vol.1 [71mb, mp3 + cue]

Tracklist:

01. Juno Reactor – Nitrogen Pt. 1
02. Prodigy – Spitfire
03. Crystal Method – Trip Like I Do (Tom Real vs The Rogue Element Remix)
04. Daft Punk – Around The World
05. Mr. Miyagi – Pick Your Poison
06. Smashing Pumpkins – 1979 (Crystal Method Remix)
07. New Order – Bizarre Love Triangle (Crystal Method Remix)
08. Klaas – Feel The Love (Klaas Increase Mix)
09. Stonebridge – Close to Heaven
10. Overseer – Skylight
11. Pulsedriver – Night Moves
12. Chemical Brothers – Star Guitar
13. Moby – Slipping Away (Axwell Vocal Mix)
14. Ulrich Schnauss – Nobody’s Home

Total Running Time: 44min 38sec

We’d like to thank the amazing artists who composed the beautiful original songs, and I have linked as many of them as I can here: Juno Reactor, Prodigy, Crystal Method, Daft Punk, Mr. Miyagi, Smashing Pumpkins, New Order, Klaas, Stonebridge, Overseer, Pulsedriver, Chemical Brothers, Moby, Ulrich Schnauss

Enjoy!